Dr. Joseph Nicolosi — The Father of Reintegrative Therapy & Finding the Cure for Homosexuality
What you are about to read may offend you or open your mind to an era of new truth and therapy you have never seen before. What you will also read are life stories that matter in our wonderful universe. My name is Nickolas J. McKee and I will tell you about my journey of becoming a Reintegrated Bisexual.
It all started years ago in 2015 when I had my downfall in becoming HIV Positive. I was torn and hurt feeling like God and the world was over. I found out I was HIV+ through a thick skin of intuition and by the help of caring professionals of the medical industry. During the time of 2015, I was in college, and I thought I had everything in life that made me happy — friends, partying, schooling to be one of the best writers, and the possible love of my life. Things quickly turned for the worse when I found out I was HIV+. I was such a happy extravert that suddenly turned quickly into a hopeless and dark introvert of my own doing. At this time, prior before being diagnosed HIV+, I was really into a student, and friend who constantly hung out with me as we attended social events, and college together. Unfortunately, this person and I got into a real heated argument about both of us dating other people, and it didn’t end well between us. I must admit I laid hands on them and now looking back, I realized things could’ve been solved differently without minor violence. I must admit during our heated exchange of words, I saw red, and for some reason I saw bits and pieces of my absent father that were wrongly placed into my friend who I suddenly began to pummel upon with punches. It took my friend to scream “I hate you!” until I stopped seeing red and stopped punching him. I was so distraught in tears, I left the dark street of the night and went back home alone. At this time I allowed my friend to stay at my nice apartment in the city of Chicago, but clearly, we were never going to spend another night with each other again.
Months later after that horrible breakup of my friendship I found out I was HIV+ on 9/11/2015. “What f***** up fate” is what I thought most of the time. I was kind and considerate enough to disclose my status to my lost friend despite our last unfortunate encounter with one another. I told my friend I was sorry about our fight that happened and I had to disclose to him I was HIV+ no matter the bad blood that happened between us. Well, for four years he ignored me — until I messaged him on his Instagram soon to find out that he was HIV+ too — so — the bad blood still remains. My heart was racing in mixed emotions, palpitating like never before. I didn’t know what to say or what to do! At the time I tried my best to reconcile peace, but alas, this was never possible with stubborn hate my ex-friend had for me. After finding out he was HIV+ too, I was told to stay out of his life — I was livid. I posted our text messages on Facebook and wanted to make sure my life was secure from being blamed of giving him HIV. After all, in great honesty, I was submissive to my friend, and we only had sex three times of our lifetime together. I feared that I was going to be held accountable despite both of us having mutual consent of our past sex.
So you may be wondering right now — who gave who HIV?
To be honest with you it was both of our fault. We didn’t used protection and I knew my ex-friend messed around with my childhood friend (who is currently nobody in my life as well) thus bringing me the conclusion that I can’t trust or be a friend to someone who keeps horrible secrets for so long of a time. Till this day, I most admit some mixed emotions will always be the same. After all, I was a young hopeless romantic until… Reintegrative Therapy.
so what does Reintegrative Therapy have to do with all of this? Everything I say! After finding out the truth that hurts, I was lost, and confused for a while about everything that transpired leading up to me becoming HIV+ for life. I was filled with guilt, depression, anger, and sadness. This was a dark age of its own for me. I was a hopeless romantic and I had to go through one of the worst downward spirals of my life. At this time my friends and family were doing the best to answer the prolonged questions I had: “Why did this all have to happen to me?” “Why do I have to have a virus eating away at my soul?” “Where is God?” I did everything I felt and as best as I could. My mom hired a therapist for me, but I ended up leaving the therapy angry and still full of anger. I tried committing suicide, but thank God, Jesus resurrected my soul back to life. A few years go by, and suddenly, I had the audacity to type one sentence in my computer: “Therapy that can change my sexuality.”
After reading and sifting through mainstream media that opposed Conversion Therapy and Reparative Therapy, I so fortunately found Reintegrative Therapy (RT) and Dr. Joseph Nicolosi. I was ecstatic and amazed! Mind you of past time, I was in a gutter of hopelessness, constantly seeking for dire help I so needed. This help would be Dr. Nicolosi. As a quick witted writer I began to do my research on Dr. Nicolosi and on his Reintegrative Therapy coined as “pseudoscience” by mainstream media and the ever so “informative” Wikipedia. After reading the main website of Dr. Nicolosi I felt I found something final to my ever so dreadful problem of practicing Homosexuality in my life. Sad to say, Dr. Nicolosi passed away in 2017, so I found him and his therapy in the midst of 2019. I told myself, “If only I could talk to him or a professional of RT!” Since I couldn’t afford to pay for a professional session, I found videos of seminars and discussions by Dr. Nicolosi. Finding these videos was like striking gold in a mine! There he was — talking directly to me as it felt and I took studious notes of Dr. Nicolosi and the information he had to give. Dr. Nicolosi discussed about how trauma and possible parenting can contribute to one’s sexuality and how we as people can be in the driver’s seat of our own sexual doing.
When it comes to Reintegrative Therapy I completely believe this therapy can work with anyone — whether you’re gay, straight, bi or feeling the need to evolve into whatever sexual orientation you want to change into. Its true RT is known for taking on Homosexual sessions of therapy, but I truly believe if someone is uncomfortable with their current sexual orientation, they have the right to explore into other possible identities of their own choosing. RT is by no means relevant to Conversion Therapy and other detrimental Reparative forms of therapy — there is no bible bashing or electroshocking in Reintegrative Therapy. As it is always said and will be said — you are in control as the driver of your seat. I want to mention too how my new sexual orientation of Bisexuality plays into my life. I found out in my own practicing of Reintegrative Therapy that I have always been a seasoned Bisexual. One can say, “Well then you never been a Homosexual — you have always been closeted as a Bisexual at heart.” It’s true I had attractions to the opposite sex when I was younger, but Reintegrative Therapy helps to reinforce in me that I don’t have to be stigmatized as a Homosexual or as a Bisexual — we are phenomenal human beings capable at putting our minds to anything.
I truly believe and know I will be a happy Bisexual till the day my mortal body dies and my spirit can last of immortality thanks be to God and the Trinity. I am happy to say Im engaged with the best love of my life. If Reintegrative Therapy can cure me — I’m sure it can help you too.
Eyesight Journalism Inc © 2022. Written By Nickolas J. McKee
